How to Handle Family Reactions as a Muslim Revert

How I Managed the Reaction of My Family After I Embraced Islam

Bismillah. Embracing Islam is a deeply personal and spiritual journey, but for many reverts, it comes with challenges—especially when it comes to family reactions. The people who love us the most can sometimes struggle to understand our choices, and that can lead to tension, misunderstandings, or even rejection.

I’ve been through this journey myself. I know how it feels to long for acceptance while standing firm in faith. It’s not easy, but it’s possible to navigate these challenges with wisdom, patience, and kindness.

Today, I want to share some tips based on my experience and how I was able to cope with struggles. I hope this will be helpful to you, In shaa Allah.

My Past Religion

I grew up in a religiously conservative family. My mom came from a highly devoted Christian background, while my father was from a Roman Catholic family. When they got married, my mom became a Jehovah’s Witness, but my father did not.

I often saw them argue about religion—my father was nonchalant about my mom’s church activities and, at times, disapproved of them.

Together with my siblings, I was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness. Every weekend, we would go on ministerial work, knocking on doors to preach about Armageddon. I can say that those were some of the best moments of my childhood. But as a young person, I also had the worst nightmares being around certain people from the church—something I choose not to discuss in this post because I just want to forget it.

Anyway, I grew up in that faith, but it never truly nurtured my spiritual growth. As I got older, I realized that the religion I was in didn’t resonate with me.

When Mom Learned I Became a Muslim

It was during my final years at the university that I found Islam. When mom learned it, she said: 

"Unya, apil-apil na kag pas-an ug pusil. Mamutol na mog ulo!" (So now, you're joining those who carry guns. You'll start beheading people too!)

I could see her disappointment, her guilt, her pain. I just remained silent.

After graduation, I went abroad. She didn’t speak to me for almost two years. But I continued sending them money. I never received a single call or message from them—not even a thank you whenever I sent their monthly allowance.

But I didn’t hold it against them, especially my mom. I just told myself that they had no way to contact me—no internet or anything. I chose to believe that so it wouldn’t be too painful.

Instead, I understand them. Here's what I learned from that experienced:

1. Understanding Their Perspective

Before reacting to their emotions, try to see things from their side. Your family has known you a certain way for years, and any significant change—especially one as life-altering as religion—can feel unsettling to them.

They might:

• Fear losing you or the bond they’ve shared with you.
• Have misconceptions about Islam from the media.
• Worry about what others will say.
• Feel hurt that you didn’t consult them before making such a big decision.
• A little patience and understanding go a long way in easing their concerns.

2. Communicate with Wisdom and Gentleness

Allah reminds us in the Qur’an:

"And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination." (Surah Luqman 31:14)

Even if your family reacts negatively, respond with kindness. Speak with love, not frustration. If they ask questions, answer them calmly. If they are angry, give them space. The way you handle these moments will leave a lasting impression.

3. Lead by Example

Actions speak louder than words. Instead of debating or arguing, show the beauty of Islam through your character. Let them see how Islam makes you a better, kinder, more respectful person. Over time, they may soften and become more open to understanding your faith.

I was never a hard-headed son. But I tried my best to show them how Islam changed me in a way that benefited everyone around me.

My mother eventually realized that I wasn’t carrying guns—I was carrying the burden of our family. I sent my brother to culinary school. He graduated (he's now a chef and working on a cruise). No one in the family supported me when I was struggling in university. It was just me, all alone.

Maybe that’s why Mom couldn’t say a word when she found out I had become Muslim. Because I never asked them for anything, and deep down, I knew they couldn’t afford to support my studies.

4. Set Boundaries Without Breaking Ties

Some families may try to pressure you to give up Islam, mock your beliefs, or put you in uncomfortable situations. While it’s important to be patient, you also have a right to protect your mental and emotional well-being.

• If a conversation turns hostile, excuse yourself.
• If they pressure you to do something against your faith, politely decline.
• Stay firm, but always remain respectful.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

"The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best to my family." (Tirmidhi 3895)

Your goal is to maintain family ties while staying true to your faith.

As I mentioned earlier, my family comes from a background of devoted Christians. Some of my uncles and cousins have completely shut me off—even until now.

5. Make Dua and Trust Allah

Hearts change by the will of Allah. No matter how difficult things get, never underestimate the power of dua. Ask Allah to soften their hearts, to guide them, and to make things easier for you.

"Indeed, Allah is with those who are patient." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:153)

I'm always a patient person, and that trait has helped me immensely in everything I’ve been through. Working abroad was incredibly hard. You're all alone. And knowing your family has shut you out makes it even more painful.

But I took it as a challenge. I embraced it as a blessing.

I learned that Allah loves those who are patient. And when He tests those He loves, it is only to make them stronger.

My Message For You—If You Are a Revert or Even Born Muslim 

If you've come to this point. Alhamdulillah. Thank you for reading this long rant. This is not a coincidence. It's Allah's will. It's qadr. So thank you.

Reverting to Islam is a test, but it’s also a blessing. With time, patience, and sincerity, many reverts find that their families eventually accept and respect their faith. Some even become curious and open to learning more.

No matter what happens, remember: You are not alone. Many reverts have walked this path before you, and above all, Allah is always with you.

Stay strong, stay patient, and keep moving forward. 🌹

— Syed 😍

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